Do you find that people expect you to fill in whenever there’s a vacancy? Do you resent the fact that the people you are filling in for are doing what you would rather do? Are you afraid that your friends will turn their backs or stop calling if you turn down their request?

This behavior is all based on a fear that alone you are not enough. That you do not measure up to what others offer and you should always be appreciative of the attention they extend to you. This is regardless of the respect and concern that should be extended to you!

I see such a lack of inner strength and “knowing” when this situation arises! You need to ask yourself, “Who am I and what do I really want?” What about my interests and desires? Are these people the only ones in the world with whom I can communicate and want to be with? Are these relationships only indicative of my inner yearnings to “belong” to something? Something??

This is where we really need to look internally at what is going on. Outside of yourself will always be “outside”! Have you sufficiently looked and explored “inside” yourself? For this is where the gold is, the budding soul essence that begs to be acknowledged and expressed! Why would you have ever been relegated to a door mat or goffer!! Do you really believe this is your life’s path? Wake up!! You are here as the Divine creator of your own unique life and it’s about time you started living like it!!

Hopefully you will reach the end of the “people pleasing” line! At that point either two things will happen. If you start expressing yourself you will either lose friends that never were ……or realize that all the attention you expressed to others was not really necessary to maintain their friendship. In fact, an over expression of pleasing can be viewed by others as unauthentic or downright annoying. Do what is right for you and the people who count with be right there for you every time!